Title: ”Unfiltered: No Shame, No Regrets, Just Me.”
Author: Lily Collins
Goodreads rating: ☆
In this groundbreaking debut essay collection, featuring never-before-seen photos, actress Lily Collins—star of Mortal Instruments and the upcoming Rules Don’t Apply—is opening a poignant, honest conversation about the things young women struggle with: body image, self-confidence, relationships, family, dating, and so much more.
For the first time ever, Lily shares her life and her own deepest secrets, underlining that every single one of us experiences pain and heartbreak. We all understand what it’s like to live in the light and in the dark. For Lily, it’s about making it through to the other side, where you love what you see in the mirror and where you embrace yourself just as you are. She’s learned that all it takes is one person standing up and saying something for everyone else to realize they’re not alone.
By turns hilarious and heartbreaking, Lily’s honest voice will inspire you to be who you are and say what you feel. It’s time to claim your voice! It’s time to live your life unfiltered.
This review is a slight rant.
As an author Lily Collins has left me quite underwhelmed. Reading her book made me feel agitated and the overall impression of everything was rather naive and childish even.
The goal of this book was to help people out with tough patches in their lives by sharing her own experiences and wisdom. The idea behind it is rather nice. But it seriously surprises me how many people found this book very inspiring or helpful, I mean sure maybe she hit the mark with a few things…but other than that it was a nice try.
For a woman, who is 28, the writing seemed too young…meaning- it felt as if the book was written by a teenager who had no idea about how the world worked and only relied on the things she had heard and read. It was all so cliche and naive that I felt angry reading it. Everything was so bland and one-dimensional, there was nothing interesting to grasp onto.
I also very much disliked how everything (and I do mean EVERYTHING) came back to her dating life. Always. It didn’t matter what the chapter was meant to be about…she always ended up talking about her relationships and how all of them were so hard to cope with. All of it came back to her love life. Full circle.
TALKING ABOUT HER INNER SUPERHERO –> ”I’ve always been a compassionate person who wears her feelings on her sleeve and puts others’ needs before her own. It’s an incredibly positive characteristic, but it also fed my insecurities around speaking up for myself in romantic relationships.”
STILL TALKING ABOUT HER INNER SUPERHERO –> ”Now I can use those skills- which were a direct result of my insecurity- to properly assess individuals (potential suitors included!).”
TALKING ABOUT HER FATHER’S ADDICTION –> ”I was in my late teens when it started, but at that time I hadn’t yet dated anyone with addiction problems and didn’t know what it looked like.” OMG, THIS WAS THE ONE SENTENCE THAT MADE ME LOSE IT. DO YOU HAVE TO DATE SOMEONE WITH ADDICTION JUST SO YOU COULD SEE SIGNS OF IT IN OTHER PEOPLE? FOR GOD’S SAKE, SHE IS TALKING ABOUT HER DAD AND THEN STARTS RANTING ABOUT HER BOYFRIENDS AGAIN.
TALKING ABOUT HOW EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS HAS A REASON –> ”The question of ”Why is this happening?” is hard when dealing with career stuff and hard with school stuff, too. But it’s positively gut-wrenching when it comes to dating.”
There is nothing that can express how much I disliked her talking about her relationships in excess. I started thinking of all the younger girls, who look up to her a lot and would have benefitted from hearing more about how certain questions and inner battles made school hard, or getting along with one’s closer friends or family more difficult.
Furthermore, it felt like the book was actually more helpful to her in the end. The way she wrote and the things she talked about seemed as if she was looking for confirmation of her strength and adultness. Just about every sentence made her seem vulnerable and unsure of herself, as if all the troubles she said she had got over were still haunting her every move.
There were maybe a few bits of the book that weren’t so bad, but all in all the book was a major letdown for me. It had so much potential and yet…here we are.
Check the book out on Goodreads here.